One partner may feel that sex means validation or freedom or conquest, none of which are available from a spouse. If you feel essentially ugly and undesirable, your partner might not be able to make you feel attractive and desir…
One partner may feel that sex means validation or freedom or conquest, none of which are available from a spouse. If you feel essentially ugly and undesirable, your partner might not be able to make you feel attractive and desirable like a stranger can. Many people who grew up in sexually repressive families associate sex with freedom. It’s something about you that breaks the shackles of conventionality and familial control. Sex within a stable relationship can feel like a submission, like the beast has been tamed after all. Sex with your partner might still be fun, but it’s not likely to be liberating or rebellious if your parents implicitly condone it. Finally, sex for some people can mean a conquest, another notch on the belt. Repeated sex with the same person, someone who loves you to boot, can hardly be considered a victory.
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